Dear Veronika,
I met a great man four years ago (he is 28 and I am 25), almost immediately we started living together. He has a son who is seven years old now. His child lives with his parents who are relatively young. Every weekend we get to have his son over. This is beginning to irritate me. First, there is no where we can go to have fun and unwind. We can't take him to our friends with us, they would not like it. Neither can we take him to a bar or billiard, it's not a good place for children. So what we've been doing for the past 10 months is sit at home all weekend long. Our only entertainment is the playground or the park. Also, we stopped being intimate. Throughout the week we both get tired when back from work. Also, living in a one bedroom apartment doesn't help because we can't have sex with a child in the room. On the weekends his son wakes up at 7am and I have to prepare breakfast for everybody and keep the boy busy. If you advise that I speak to my boyfriend, it's is useless because he has very difficult personality, begins to heat up very quickly. What irritates me even more is that his son looks more and more like his mother who abandoned him when he was 2. Maybe somebody encountered a similar problem? I must add that I dream of having a child with this man. I will be thankful for any advice on this matter. ~ Charlotte

Dear Charlotte,
It is interesting, why do you continue to live with a man with whom you are not completely satisfied? Is it a form of masochism? No, I do understand a situation where the love is very strong and you can't imagine a life without that person, but in your case it does apply, so why do you still live with this man? Indeed, there is no love between you. The only thing that connects you two is sex and everyday routine life. So one thing isn't there anymore, sex. Isn't it time to get rid of the other thing - routine life? I completely understand that you are suffering. After all he has difficult personality, like you said. On the whole, I believe that you should search for another person. This is simply not your man. Nothing terrible. It occurs. Also, don't hurry with having children of your own. In my opinion you are not ready to be a mother. Obtain education, learn what you truly like, and find that one who is truly dear and whom you will love and tolerate even in this difficult situation (i.e. him having a child from a previous relationship). At that point you will treat children differently.
Best of luck to you,
Veronika